Advice Column

By Talia Levin and Bella Nessim ‘20


Q: I just got a really bad grade on my math test, and I am afraid to tell my parents about it. They have really high expectations and I don’t want them to be disappointed in me. What is the best way to tell them about the grade? -Scared Student
A: Be honest! Tell your parents about the bad grade and maybe discuss different ways for you to do better on the next test. Try to talk about what you can do better next time and ways in which you can improve your studying. Overall, your parents are there to help you through your high school experience, not to make it more difficult. They are on your side and want you to succeed as much as you want yourself to!  


Q: I’m currently taking a class where I don’t like the teacher, and the teacher doesn’t like me. As a result, my grades are suffering and I want to give up. I am frustrated that my relationship with my teacher is affecting my grades. What do I do? -Trouble with Teacher
A: Try your hardest not to let your personal issues with your teacher affect your grades! Do your part by acting respectfully in their class and make sure there is no reason why the teacher might dislike you. Overall, a teacher’s personal feelings about a student should never affect their grading, but sometimes it feels like they do. If you truly feel that your grades are suffering from this issue, I suggest discussing this topic with the teacher.     


Q: At the beginning of freshman year I instantly became super close with another girl and we’ve been really good friends since. Lately, she’s been mean to me and distant. I even heard she was talking about me to some of our friends. I consider her one of my best friends, and I am not sure how to address this. She is sensitive, so I don’t want to call her out, but it’s becoming an issue. -Frazzled Friend

A: The best way to address this issue is not to ignore your feelings. That could lead to a larger fight that could have permanent effects on your friendship. You may want to sit down with your friend and just be completely honest. Be sure not to immediately put blame on her, because that could make her defensive. If she understands that you are addressing the issue because of how much you care about the friendship, she should understand why it is important to be honest. Hopefully, this will lead to an even stronger friendship.


Q: I’ve gotten really bad acne over the last year and am uncomfortable about it. It seems like I’m the only one. People don’t usually mention it, but I feel like they see it before they see me. I’m seeing a dermatologist, so that will hopefully help, but I am not sure what to do in the meantime. It makes me really self- conscious. What should I do? -Afflicted by Acne
A: Acne is a completely natural part of puberty! It can be hard at times, but nothing is wrong with you. Many teens have it and it doesn’t have to affect your self-image. In addition to seeing a dermatologist and following what they recommend, you should continue healthy habits, like not touching your face or your self-confidence. You are so much more than your skin. It can be very hard to ignore, but if you can focus on other things it will be less of an issue. Dwelling on it doesn’t help you at all.


Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *