Advice Column

By Talia Levin and Bella Nessim ‘20


Q: I think my friend might have an eating disorder. She always says she’s not hungry when we’re getting food. She also started saying she’s keeping kosher and won’t eat at places but I think it might be a way of avoiding food. She seems tired a lot more and pretty anxious. It’s making me really concerned. What can I do?


A:  Talk to your friend privately about what you have noticed.  Remind her that you are just looking out for her health like any good friend would do.  Eating disorders are a very sensitive topic so if your friend chooses not to open up to you right away, that’s okay!  But if they do choose to tell you how they are feeling, make sure to reassure them that you are there to help. If you are still concerned after your talk it may be time to talk to an adult who can assist your friend in getting better.

Q: Lately I’ve been feeling really sad and I have no idea why. Schools and friends are going fine but I just don’t feel happy. I don’t think I’m depressed but I’m concerned why I don’t feel better if nothing is actually wrong. Is there anything I can do?


A:  If you feel that there is something wrong, even if you don’t feel like your normal self, you should find someone to talk to like an adult or even a friend with whom you feel comfortable.  Talking about your feelings might help you discover the root of your sadness. It is also important to remember that there does not need to be an obvious trigger of sadness, so don’t beat yourself up if you can’t seem to find that root.      

Q: I am on my phone all the time. When I’m with friends I find myself half hanging out and half scrolling through social media. I also sometimes check it during class. It’s started to disrupt my life and I’m not sure how to stop. How can I stop spending all my time on my phone?


A: It seems like you need to set boundaries with your phone.  This doesn’t mean that you need to ditch your phone completely, but it does mean that you need to build a new relationship with it.  The first step is realizing that you are truly spending too much time on your phone, rather than on your life, and congratulations, it seems like you have already passed the first step! I recommend shutting your phone off completely, just for a couple hours of the day or maybe just keeping it on silent.  Little acts like these will slowly begin to change your life and you will find yourself being less dependent on your phone and more focused on your life.


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